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Sunday, May 8, 2016

Thom Knoles Tour of Sydney - July 2016


My brilliant and inspiring teacher, Thom Knoles will be in Sydney for 2 weeks in July this year.

Thom has been teaching meditation for the past 48 years.  He is a master of Vedic Meditation as well as an expert in physics, psychology, cognitive neuroscience and consciousness.

Thom will conduct:
- A group meditation and knowledge meeting for Vedic Meditators on July 10th
- Private Consultations, Advanced Techniques and private courses in Vedic Meditation
- A Long Weekend Rounding and Knowledge Retreat in Bowral from July 22nd to July 25th

For further details of Thom's tour of Sydney, please click here: Thom Knoles Tour of Sydney 2016.

Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Upcoming Long Weekend Retreat - May 26th - 29th, 2016


All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend this Long Weekend Retreat in beautiful Bowral, Southern Highlands from Thursday 26th May (6.30pm) to Sunday 29th May (2pm). 

During the Retreat, you will learn and practise 'Rounding'. ‘Rounding' combines a simple sequence of yoga positions (asanas) and a Vedic breathing technique (pranayama) with your current meditation practice. The result is an 'industrial-strength' program designed to enhance the restfulness of meditation, release your deepest stresses and expand your consciousness. 

In addition to advancing both your meditation practice and waking state experience of life, you will come away from the Retreat feeling refreshed and revitalised for months to come. 

For further details, please click here: Weekend Retreat.

Saturday, November 28, 2015

Holiday Meeting Schedule - 2015/2016

The final group meditation meeting for 2015 will be held at 6.30pm on Monday 21st December.

Come and join us for group meditation and Vedic knowledge.

We look forward to seeing you there.

The first group meditation meeting for 2016 will be held at 6.30pm on Monday 11th January.

You can always check our meeting schedule via the website: Double Bay Meditation Meeting Times

Wishing you all the very best over the festive season and a Happy New Year. 

With love,
Limor

Monday, June 8, 2015

Thom Knoles Tour of Sydney - August 2015


My brilliant and inspiring teacher, Thom Knoles will be in Sydney for 2 weeks in August this year.

Thom has been teaching meditation for the past 47 years.  He is a master of Vedic Meditation as well as an expert in physics, psychology, cognitive neuroscience and consciousness.

Thom will conduct a group meditation meeting for Vedic Meditators on August 10th.  He will also be available for Private Consultations, Advanced Techniques and private courses in Vedic Meditation.

For further details of Thom's tour of Sydney, please click here: Thom Knoles Tour of Sydney 2015.

Thursday, May 28, 2015

Weekend Retreat

Weekend Retreat - May 2015, Bowral
A photo of the group of meditators who attended the recent Weekend Retreat in beautiful Bowral. 

Participants learnt and practised 'Rounding'. 'Rounding' combines a simple sequence of yoga positions (asanas) and a Vedic breathing technique (pranayama) with meditation. 

The depth and restfulness of meditation is multiplied exponentially as meditators extend the number of rounds through each day, from three to five to seven and beyond, diving deep into Nature and the Unified Field.

It was 3 days of deep rest, advanced knowledge, delicious food and fun.

Thank you to the highly conscious group who attended.

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Initiator Training 2016

Initiator Training is a dynamic and transformative process designed to train practitioners of Vedic Meditation to be professional Initiators - teachers in our Vedic tradition.

The next Initiator Training course will be conducted by Limor Babai, Thom Knoles and Christian Bevacqua in Rishikesh, India from January 20th to April 13th, 2016. 

This will be a full time 12 week residential program. 

For further details and to complete the Application Form,  please click here: www.vedicmeditationit.com

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Upcoming Long Weekend Retreat - May 21st - 24th, 2015

All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend this Long Weekend Retreat in beautiful Bowral, Southern Highlands from Thursday 21st May (6.30pm) to Sunday 24th May (2pm). 

During the Retreat, you will learn and practise 'Rounding'. ‘Rounding' combines a simple sequence of yoga positions (asanas) and a Vedic breathing technique (pranayama) with your current meditation practice. The result is an 'industrial-strength' program designed to enhance the restfulness of meditation, release your deepest stresses and expand your consciousness. 

In addition to advancing both your meditation practice and waking state experience of life, you will come away from the Retreat feeling refreshed and revitalised for months to come. 

For further details, please click here: Weekend Retreat.

Exploring the Veda in 2015

All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend the Advanced Course entitled Exploring the Veda.

The knowledge and tools you will learn on this course will fast track your growth to higher states of consciousness, transform your waking state experience and help you realise your life purpose.

My colleague, Lauren Godfrey will be conducting Exploring the Veda in 2015 at her centre in Coogee.  For dates and details, please click here: Exploring the Veda in 2015 with Lauren Godfrey at the Lotus Meditation Centre, Coogee

For further details about the course, please click here: Exploring the Veda.

Mastering the Siddhis in 2015

If you have completed instalments 1 to 5 of Mastering the Siddhis and are yet to complete Instalment 6, I will be conducting Instalment 6 at my Centre in Double Bay, Sydney on June 26th, 27th and 28th, 2015.
For those of you who would like to undertake Instalments 1 to 5, my colleague, Lauren Godfrey will be conducting Instalments 1 to 5 at her centre in Coogee.  For dates and details, please click here: 
Mastering the Siddhis instalments 1 to 5 in 2015 with Lauren Godfrey at the Lotus Meditation Centre, Coogee   

For further details about the course, please click here: Mastering the Siddhis.

Saturday, November 29, 2014

Why Meditation makes you more fearless

During our meditation practice, bliss is the basis of silence. Bliss is a state of supreme inner contentedness that silences the thinking process.

The following will explain why.

Any time we are conscious, thinking happens constantly. It is the nature of the mind, via thought, to move in the direction of greater happiness, whenever choice can be detected.

In meditation, occasionally we find that it is time to return to the mantra even though we cannot identify any thought having taken us away from the mantra. Clearly, the mantra was not there, since we are returning to that; but if the mantra was not there, and no other thought was there either, then what was there?

There are two possibilities: either "I was asleep (unconscious)", or "I was awake (conscious)". If we were asleep, then that explains why we cannot recall any thought having taken us away from the mantra. But if we are quite certain that we were not asleep—if, for example, the head did not drop suddenly—then we were awake—but apparently without thought. "Awake without thought" is the definition of pure consciousness, also described as "Being". So why do we say it is "bliss"?

Conscious silence must be bliss, since it is the mind's nature never to stop thinking until it arrives at bliss, the mind's ultimate goal.  An unconscious sleeping mind, naturally, does not think. But one could not claim that thought-free unconsciousness is bliss, since no experiencer is present when we are unconscious.

However, if the mind is conscious—that is, if, due to being conscious, the mind is capable of detecting charm (greater happiness); and if, due to its being conscious, the mind is capable of producing thoughts—yet it is not producing thoughts, then why did thinking not occur in consciousness, even if thinking ceased only for a few seconds?

From simultaneity of consciousness with no thought we can infer that the mind must have had an experience of satiety so great that the mind's search was fulfilled.  This is what we mean by bliss.

The experience of bliss in meditation causes the mind to fall silent.

When we come out of meditation, we begin to integrate this state of bliss in the eyes-open state, when we are active, and this leads to being more fearless.

Fearlessness is the diagnostic symptom of pure consciousness having integrated itself into the waking state.  When we have established ourselves in Being enough that bliss can sustain itself in the eyes-open state – when the mind is able to be active and not have to be silent in response to bliss, then the eyes-open waking state version of this is fearlessness. 

The experience of bliss outside of meditation, during activity, causes fearlessness.

Fearlessness is the pinnacle of human experience. 

One of the signs of being fearless is that we are able to deal with the demands of life without much fuss.

Our twice daily contact with bliss through meditation makes us more fearless in our daily lives. 

With love,
Limor

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Holiday Meeting Schedule - 2014/2015

The final group meditation meeting for 2014 will be held at 6.30pm on Monday 15th December.

Come and join us for group meditation and Vedic knowledge.

We look forward to seeing you there.

The first group meditation meeting for 2015 will be held at 6.30pm on Monday 5th January.

You can always check our meeting schedule via the website: Double Bay Meditation Meeting Times

Wishing you all the very best over the festive season and a Happy New Year. 

With love,
Limor

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Retreat in Rishikesh, India With Thom Knoles - January 2015

My brilliant and inspiring teacher, Thom Knoles will be conducting a Retreat in Rishikesh, India from January 10th - 20th, 2015.

All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend.

For further details please click here:
Thom Knoles Rishikesh Retreat 2015.

For any further enquiries, please contact Thom's Manager, Katia Tallarico at: info@thomknoles.com

Monday, July 28, 2014

Exploring the Veda

Below is a photo of the course participants who just completed instalment 1 of the Advanced Knowledge Course entitled Exploring the Veda this weekend.  Exploring the Veda is a course of knowledge and tools that are designed for those meditators who wish to fast track their growth to higher states of consciousness. You can read more about the course by clicking here:
Exploring the Veda.


Sunday, June 29, 2014

Special Meeting - Guru Purnima - Saturday July 12th, 2014 at 8pm

Our annual Guru Purnima celebration (full moon in July) will be held on Saturday 12th July at 8pm at the Lotus Meditation Centre in Coogee.  

Guru Purnima traditionally honours the Vedic Masters who brought to light the Vedic knowledge we all enjoy today.  I will perform “Puja” - the ceremony of gratitude that you witnessed when you learnt to meditate.  It is part of the mythos of Guru Purnima that a boon is granted in response to a wish offered with one’s flower at the culmination of the Puja.  All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend.
Please bring a flower with you and a wish!

It will be an evening of stories, eating of rich sweets together, taking in a moonlit stroll, and enjoying the great good fortune of being a meditator at the dawn of the age of enlightenment. 

Come along to the Lotus Meditation Centre and enjoy an evening of camaraderie with other meditators, to be together, eat together, and enjoy the richness of meditating life together.

The evening will include a short group meditation but it will be best to meditate and have dinner before coming. 

This is a free event.  To reserve a spot, you will need to RSVP by Thursday 10th July by emailing Lauren Godfrey at: info@lotusmeditationcentre.com.  You will receive a reply with address details.


Monday, June 9, 2014

Initiator Training 2015

Initiator Training is a dynamic and transformative process designed to train practitioners of Vedic Meditation to be professional Initiators - teachers in our Vedic tradition.

The next Initiator Training course will be conducted by Limor Babai, Thom Knoles and Christian Bevacqua in Rishikesh, India from January 20th to April 14th, 2015. 

This will be a full time 12 week residential program. 

For further details and to complete the Application Form,  please click here: www.vedicmeditationit.com

Friday, June 6, 2014

Ayurveda and Cooking with Tim Mitchell - July 2014


My colleague and Master Ayurvedic Chef Tim Mitchell will conduct a course on Ayurveda and cooking as follows:

Thursday 17th July, 6-9pm 

Saturday 19th July, 1-5pm
Sunday 20th July, 1-5pm

The course will be held at The Intuitive Well in Bondi Junction and is suitable for everyone. You will learn the basic principles of Ayurveda (the science of longevity) and how you can bring balance to your mind and body through food.  You will also enjoy feasting on Tim's delicious cooking. 

This course is highly recommended for anyone who wishes to learn more about Ayurveda, Ayurvedic cooking and how to balance your body for optimal health.

For further details, please click here: Ayurveda and Cooking July 2014.

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Weekend Retreat

Weekend Retreat - May 2014, Blue Mountains

A photo of the group of meditators who attended the recent Weekend Retreat in the beautiful Blue Mountains. 

Participants learnt and practised 'Rounding'. 'Rounding' combines a simple sequence of yoga positions (asanas) and a Vedic breathing technique (pranayama) with meditation. 

The depth and restfulness of meditation is multiplied exponentially as meditators extend the number of rounds through each day, from three to five to seven and beyond, diving deep into Nature and the Unified Field.

It was 3 days of deep rest, advanced knowledge, delicious food and fun.

Thank you to the highly conscious group who attended.

Saturday, April 19, 2014

Exploring the Veda - a course of Advanced Knowledge

All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend the Advanced Course entitled Exploring the Veda.

The knowledge and tools you will learn on this course will fast track your growth to higher states of consciousness, transform your waking state experience and help you realise your life purpose.

The Exploring the Veda course is conducted in 6 instalments in a non-residential setting at the Double Bay Meditation Centre. Instalment 1 will take place as follows:

Friday July 25th, 2014 - 7pm to 9.30pm
Saturday July 26th, 2014 - 10am to 6.30pm
Sunday July 27th, 2014 - 10am to 6.30pm

For further details about the course, please click here: Exploring the Veda.

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Mastering the Siddhis - a course for the Advanced Vedic Meditator

I am conducting the life-changing Mastering the Siddhis Course, instalments 1 to 5 at my Centre in Double Bay, Sydney.

Thom Knoles will be conducting instalment 6 in Los Angeles, USA from August 29th to September 1st, 2014. 

For further details about the course and to view the dates, please click here: Mastering the Siddhis.

Friday, March 21, 2014

Upcoming Weekend Retreat - May 22nd - 25th, 2014

All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend this Long Weekend Retreat in the beautiful Blue Mountains from Thursday 22nd May (6.30pm) to Sunday 25th May (2pm). 

During the Retreat, you will learn and practice 'Rounding'. ‘Rounding' combines a simple sequence of yoga positions (asanas) and a Vedic breathing technique (pranayama) with your current meditation practice. The result is an 'industrial-strength' program designed to enhance the restfulness of meditation, release your deepest stresses and expand your consciousness. 

In addition to advancing both your meditation practice and waking state experience of life, you will come away from the Retreat feeling refreshed and revitalised for months to come. 

For further details, please click here: Weekend Retreat.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Holiday Meeting Schedule - 2013/2014

The final group meditation meeting for 2013 will be held at 6.30pm on Monday 16th December.

Come and join us for group meditation and Vedic knowledge.

We look forward to seeing you there.

The first group meditation meeting for 2014 will be held at 6.30pm on Monday 6th January.

However, there will be no group meditation meeting on the Australia Day Holiday; Monday 27th January.

You can always check our meeting schedule via the website: Double Bay Meditation Meeting Times

Wishing you all the very best over the festive season and a Happy New Year. 

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Thoughts are not the enemy ....

Thoughts are a part of meditation.

Having lots of thoughts during a meditation session is not an indication of incorrect meditation.  In fact, thoughts are one of the symptoms of correct meditation.

Thoughts during meditation are caused by the body purifying itself of accumulated stress (overloads). This process of purification causes the mind to become more active which in turn leads to thoughts as the mind cannot be active without content.

In order to get a picture of what happens to a person’s body during meditation, scientific studies on meditators require them to wear so much invasive instrumentation and apparatus that no meditator being measured scientifically ever has had anything but a thought-filled meditation session.

Imagine wearing an electrocardiogram on your chest, 16 electrodes for EEG on your head, having a catheter inserted into your forearm artery, a gas mask over your nose and mouth, and a rectal thermometer taking your temperature, along with several other devices in place - all at once - and then being asked to meditate in the laboratory while knowing you were being measured.

Yet every scientific study published on the wonderful effects of meditation has asked the meditator to meditate under these or similar conditions.  After each study, when interviewed, meditators confirm typically that the session was far more thought-filled than their most thought-filled home sessions.  Yet it is these studies that demonstrate repeatedly beneficial physiological changes during meditation.

The lesson from this is that a meditator’s subjective assessment of the benefits of a meditation sitting is not an accurate tool for determining what is the full effect of a particular session.

Scientific studies ask the meditator for ten minutes both before and after the proper meditation-measuring phase of the study simply to sit with eyes closed and not use the mantra - to measure the difference between “sitting merely with eyes closed” versus that phase of the sitting during which the subject is “intending to meditate”.

The distinction between these two phases always is dramatic; the “intending-to-meditate” phase of sitting, however thought-filled, will show invariably powerful physiological changes - mostly those related to release of stress and of deep levels of rest, typically up to five times more restful than sleep.

When the body throws off stress during meditation, this causes the mind to march into thoughts and a feeling of buoyancy instead of diving.  The benefits of that phase of a sitting (even if it is the nature of an entire sitting) are mostly deferred benefits; those being detected outside the practice.  In other words, you will feel better for having done it, even if during it experiences are not as settled as in other sittings.

So continue to give meditation the priority it deserves in order to receive the wonderful benefits noticed by millions of people around the world.

With love,
Limor

Friday, July 12, 2013

Guru Purnima - Monday July 22nd, 2013 at 7pm

Special Meeting for Vedic Meditators to be conducted by Thom Knoles

GURU PURNIMA - Monday July 22nd at 7pm

Venue: The Life Pod Yoga Studio; Level 1, 1A Victoria Street, Paddington

Celebrate Guru Purnima (the full moon in July) which traditionally honours the Vedic Masters who brought to light the Vedic knowledge we all enjoy today. Thom will perform “Puja” - the ceremony of gratitude that you witnessed when you learnt to meditate.  It is part of the mythos of Guru Purnima that a boon is granted in response to a wish offered with one’s flower at the culmination of the Puja.  It is an evening of stories, eating of rich sweets together, taking in a moonlit stroll, and enjoying the good fortune of being a meditator at the dawn of the age of enlightenment.

The evening will include group meditation.

Please bring a flower with you and a wish!

Free event.  No RSVP required.

Saturday, April 6, 2013

Initiator Training 2014

Initiator Training is a dynamic and transformative process designed to train practitioners of Vedic Meditation to be professional Initiators - teachers in our Vedic tradition.

The next Initiator Training course will be conducted by Limor Babai, Thom Knoles and Christian Bevacqua in Rishikesh, India from January 15th to April 9th, 2014. 

This will be a full time 12 week residential program.


For further details and to complete the Application Form,  please click here:  www.vedicmeditationit.com

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Thom Knoles Tour of Sydney - July/August 2013

My brilliant and inspiring teacher, Thom Knoles will be in Sydney for 3 weeks this year.

Thom has been teaching meditation for the past 45 years.  He is a master of Vedic Meditation as well as an expert in physics, psychology, cognitive neuroscience and consciousness.
 
Thom will conduct Private Consultations for Meditators at the Double Bay Meditation Centre for 5 days only - on July 24th and July 30th to August 2nd.  If you would like to make an appointment with Thom for a Private Consultation please contact Anna Dudek at: annadudek.meditation@gmail.com

For further details of Thom's tour of Sydney, please click here: Thom Knoles Tour of Sydney 2013.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Transcending isn't the goal

It is important to remember that the goal of Vedic Meditation is not to transcend thought in every 20 minute meditation session.

Vedic Meditation is a practice which systematically
de-excites the mind.  However, we may not experience pure silence in every meditation session.

As we de-excite the mind in meditation, the body follows and we experience a profound state of rest.   This causes the body to unwind stress.  As the body releases stress during meditation, the mind can become active with thoughts and we may even experience emotions or body sensations.  Those experiences are the after effect or by-product of the body unstressing, de-toxing and healing.
When there is more stress in the body, there are more opportunities for stress to be released.  During the early days of meditation, when the body is still holding a lifetime backlog of stress, only very little
de-excitation is needed in order to trigger its release.  As we clear out that backlog through regular daily practice, the trend is toward more sustained periods of depth in meditation.

Meditation is a process, not an outcome.  The process during the 20 minutes session is to effortlessly favour the mantra whenever we remember to do so.  If we follow this instruction then we have meditated, whether we transcend or not.

The outcome of meditation is how it enhances our activity and life when we come out of meditation. 

The wonderful benefits that come from meditating twice every day, such as:

- greater physical energy
- greater mental clarity
- feeling happy for no reason
- being calm in demanding situations
- having adaptive responses to changes of expectations

are some of the outcomes of meditation.

Therefore, when we meditate it is best not to have any expectation of any particular result during the 20 minute session.  We can look for the results after meditation in our daily activity.

Ultimately, the perfect prescription is simply to keep regular with our practice, and take the whole experience as it comes, without judgement or concern.

With love,
Limor


Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Ayurveda and cooking with Tim Mitchell

My colleague and Master Ayurvedic Chef Tim Mitchell will conduct a course on Ayurveda and cooking as follows:

Friday 2nd August, 6-9pm

Saturday 3rd August, 11-5pm


The course will be held at The Intuitive Well in Bondi Junction and is suitable for everyone. You will learn the basic principles of Ayurveda (the science of longevity) and how you can bring balance to your mind and body through food.  You will also enjoy feasting on Tim's delicious cooking.

This course is highly recommended for anyone who wishes to learn more about Ayurveda, Ayurvedic cooking and how to balance your body for optimal health.

For further details, please click here: Ayurveda and Cooking August 2013.

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Holiday Meeting Schedule - 2012/2013

The final group meditation meeting for 2012 will be held at 6.30pm on Monday 17th December.

Come and join us for group meditation and Vedic knowledge.

We look forward to seeing you there.


The first group meditation meeting for 2013 will be held at 6.30pm on Monday 21st January.

You can always check our meeting schedule via the website: Double Bay Meditation Meeting Times

Wishing you all the very best over the festive season and a Happy New Year.

Friday, October 19, 2012

Upcoming Weekend Retreat - March 7th - 10th, 2013

All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend this Long Weekend Retreat in the beautiful Blue Mountains from Thursday 7th March (6.30pm) to Sunday 10th March (2pm).

During the Retreat, you will learn and practice 'Rounding'. ‘Rounding' combines a simple sequence of yoga positions (asanas) and a Vedic breathing technique (pranayama) with your current meditation practice. The result is an 'industrial-strength' program designed to enhance the restfulness of meditation, release your deepest stresses and expand your consciousness.

In addition to advancing both your meditation practice and waking state experience of life, you will come away from the Retreat feeling refreshed and revitalised for months to come.

For further details, please click here: Weekend Retreat.

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Letting go of the unsustainable

When we learn Vedic Meditation, we are taught that if at any moment during the meditation session we feel that we are beginning to forget the mantra, then we should not try to keep on remembering it, we should let it go.

One of the profound and common effects that we experience by meditating twice daily is that we are able to let go of the unsustainable in our lives.

Unsustainable friendships or relationships or careers, toxic substances or any other unsustainable habits that were able to continue to be sustained before learning to meditate are much harder to sustain once we add twice daily meditation to our lives.

Quite simply, Meditators are able to more easily follow charm, move away from aversion and let go of the unsustainable.

Vedic Meditation gives us a systematic method every day of removing stress from our physiology. This allows us to rely more and more on our intuition and we therefore find it much harder to strain and maintain the unsustainable.

So next time a life-long habit that you previously found charming starts to lose its charm, then simply apply the same instruction we use in meditation:
if we feel that we are beginning to forget it, then we should not try to keep on remembering it, we should let it go.

With love,
Limor

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Special Meeting - Guru Purnima - July 3rd, 2012 at 8pm

All Vedic Meditators are invited to attend the special Guru Purnima meeting (full moon celebration) next Tuesday 3rd July, 2012 at 8pm at the North Bondi Meditation Centre; 32 Wentworth Street, Dover Heights.

The meeting will be conducted by Thom Knoles. It will be an evening of stories, eating of rich sweets together, taking in a moonlit stroll, and enjoying the great good fortune of being a meditator at the dawn of the age of enlightenment.

Please bring a flower with you and a wish!

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Weekend Retreat

Weekend Retreat - May 2012, Bundanoon
A photo of the group of meditators who attended the recent Weekend Retreat in beautiful Bundanoon.

Participants learnt and practised 'Rounding'. 'Rounding' combines a simple sequence of yoga positions (asanas) and a Vedic breathing technique (pranayama) with meditation.

The depth and restfulness of meditation is multiplied exponentially as meditators extend the number of rounds through each day, from three to five to seven and beyond, diving deep into Nature and the Unified Field.

It was 3 days of deep rest, advanced knowledge, delicious food and fun.

Thank you to the highly conscious group who attended.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Object-Referral versus Self-Referral

There are two kinds of happiness: self-referral & object-referral.

When our sole source of happiness involves our dependency on "objects" (that is, "non-self"; for example, "a loveable other" behaving ideally for us) then that is object-referral happiness.  Our happiness becomes dependent on another person behaving according to rather strict relating guidelines.  The guidelines are designed to achieve zero deviation from the behavioural formula that has manifested some degree of happiness for us.  We do not want change, because change threatens our access to happiness.

The problem with all this begins in two areas (and rapidly engulfs the whole of life):

1) no thing or person is designed to sustain non-change or non-variation from a formula that merely brings happiness to another; evolution enforces progressive change,

and

2) it is an unsustainable living technique to source our personal inner experience in another, to make them responsible for what we are experiencing.  Attempts to do this will turn one into a control fanatic, attracting destruction to that method of relating.

The behaviour of another is neither the source of one’s happiness nor the source of one’s suffering.
“Others" are not responsible for our internal experience.

Self-referral happiness is the true fulfilment that comes from the mind incorporating the inner bliss of Being into our conscious daily experience.  Self-referral happiness allows us to have adaptive responses to demands (changes of expectation) and find within ourselves solutions to life's challenges.

In the words of Maharishi Mahesh Yogi:

“A strong mind is tolerant; a weak mind is easily overcome by the surroundings.
If one doubts another's behaviour, one will continue to have doubts even if he expresses love & joy when one meets him, because the doubts were present before the conversation started.  So a doubting or unkind mind fails to enjoy even the joyfulness and sincerity of the prevailing surroundings.

To improve relationships we must first improve our own minds and then we shall begin to behave well.  Surroundings respond to us best if we are grounded in the art of Being, which is the technique that places our lives on a high level so that we naturally and innocently behave well in harmony and joyfulness.

Contact with Being (through meditation) not only improves and satisfies the individual life but improves the atmosphere, increases harmony and reduces fear, hatred, tension, cruelty, and antagonism.  When Being is infused into the minds of individuals, social relationships improve in the most automatic and natural way, great harmony is produced in the atmosphere.”

With love,
Limor